Post by Magic Rob on Aug 23, 2016 16:17:32 GMT -8
To Chris Schetzle;
I have read your recent post about Jason and I can't help but think that this is an attack against my person dressed up for someone else. I understand that you're in pain, and I'm sorry if you feel that I hurt you. I don't believe I did; I've been friends with Jason for almost a decade now, this wasn't news to you. I feel that perhaps this has been building for a long time now. To the Storytellers that might be reading this, I understand that I asked for a Gentleman's Agreement against Chris and addressing him so directly might be seen as a violation of that; I will accept reprisal if you feel that is appropriate.
Chris, we share a rivalry, you and I. It's something that we have both looked at from time to time. It was part of what caused us to be so venomous enemies in the past. And honestly, it was some of the greatest strengths of our friendship. I'm sad that those times are behind us now.
I'm not going to beat my chest about this. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't written a verbose rebuttal to your somewhat meandering condemnation. The problem with being a support to another person is that you have the tools to hurt them. You've been my support in the past. You've attempted to hurt me. You've succeeded in hurting me.
Can you please stop now?
These sorts of verbal battles on public forums always hurt people. Always. It always hurts the game. The last time we had something like this it was between the 'apologist' and 'censorship' camps and you saw how that shook out. We lost 50 players in a matter of weeks. You and I both bled into this community to grow those numbers back, and I feel like you're throwing it away because you're mad at me for some reason.
That isn't how I want to see my community served. You're always quick to point out how protective you are of our community, but I've seen you drive more players from it than almost anyone else here. For a time, I was fine with that because you brought so much to the table. I'm not sure why you're looking to flip that table now, especially over something that matters so very little.
You hate one of my friends. I get it. You're throwing me away over it. I get that too. But in this last post, you kept saying that you were evaluating if this community was right for you, and I can't help but feel like you're trying to break up with us in as painful as way as possible, because being mad is easier than being hurt. It feels better to be mad. It feels righteous to be angry. You can beat your chest and point to the villain and say 'That one right there is the bad one, not I'.
I'm not going to fight with you Chris. I'm going to ask you to the table one last time.
Please sit down with me. Look me in the eye. Tell me how I've wronged you. Tell me how I've been bad to you. I even have a bottle of wine that I've been saving for your next divorce sadness that we can crack open for old time's sake. But these huge public battles? Please stop them. Please. The only thing you're hurting is something you claim to love; this community.
Please.
Please stop this.
Sincerely,
-Rob.
I have read your recent post about Jason and I can't help but think that this is an attack against my person dressed up for someone else. I understand that you're in pain, and I'm sorry if you feel that I hurt you. I don't believe I did; I've been friends with Jason for almost a decade now, this wasn't news to you. I feel that perhaps this has been building for a long time now. To the Storytellers that might be reading this, I understand that I asked for a Gentleman's Agreement against Chris and addressing him so directly might be seen as a violation of that; I will accept reprisal if you feel that is appropriate.
Chris, we share a rivalry, you and I. It's something that we have both looked at from time to time. It was part of what caused us to be so venomous enemies in the past. And honestly, it was some of the greatest strengths of our friendship. I'm sad that those times are behind us now.
I'm not going to beat my chest about this. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't written a verbose rebuttal to your somewhat meandering condemnation. The problem with being a support to another person is that you have the tools to hurt them. You've been my support in the past. You've attempted to hurt me. You've succeeded in hurting me.
Can you please stop now?
These sorts of verbal battles on public forums always hurt people. Always. It always hurts the game. The last time we had something like this it was between the 'apologist' and 'censorship' camps and you saw how that shook out. We lost 50 players in a matter of weeks. You and I both bled into this community to grow those numbers back, and I feel like you're throwing it away because you're mad at me for some reason.
That isn't how I want to see my community served. You're always quick to point out how protective you are of our community, but I've seen you drive more players from it than almost anyone else here. For a time, I was fine with that because you brought so much to the table. I'm not sure why you're looking to flip that table now, especially over something that matters so very little.
You hate one of my friends. I get it. You're throwing me away over it. I get that too. But in this last post, you kept saying that you were evaluating if this community was right for you, and I can't help but feel like you're trying to break up with us in as painful as way as possible, because being mad is easier than being hurt. It feels better to be mad. It feels righteous to be angry. You can beat your chest and point to the villain and say 'That one right there is the bad one, not I'.
I'm not going to fight with you Chris. I'm going to ask you to the table one last time.
Please sit down with me. Look me in the eye. Tell me how I've wronged you. Tell me how I've been bad to you. I even have a bottle of wine that I've been saving for your next divorce sadness that we can crack open for old time's sake. But these huge public battles? Please stop them. Please. The only thing you're hurting is something you claim to love; this community.
Please.
Please stop this.
Sincerely,
-Rob.